I’ve got a surfeit of excess energy tonight. Yesterday was vile, a shitastrophy, a day that would have been best spent under the duvet in my most fetching hoodie, but I embraced the challenge anyway and fought the urge to seek refuge from it all in bed. I’d been away for the weekend and HAD to catch up on some work. I eventually got some good practice done. I swear, if you’d seen me, you’d have phoned the nearest psychiatric unit. I kept bursting inconsolably into uncontrollable sobbing spells. I’d completely lost my lust for life. I bore an emotional headache from such an intense lengthy expression of emotion and its ensuing numbness. My self-talk was lamentable until my second hour of practice. Music makes everything better for me.

My gritty eyes stung and smarted in the pool. The class was the highlight of my day. It’s such a tough workout but I love the sense of solidarity within a group of women fighting the currents, swirling round in circles, gritting our teeth and squeezing our cores for dear life. Eventually pummelled into submission just after midnight, I read a few lines from Gwyneth Lewis’ Sunbathing in the Rain to accompany me into a deep slumber.

After a busy shift, tonight my creativity is back with a vengeance. I can’t stop singing. My thoughts cascade forth and I try to harvest the cream of a copious crop, jotting each brainwave in purple, pink and white. All it takes is a simple lifeline, a straw to be clutched with both hands. A gesture. A courageously tentative question. I dared. I asked. Suddenly the world transforms. It’s a warm welcoming environment and I feel connected again. I seriously considered medication last night but it’s not a route I want to go down. I still believe that’s just sticking a plaster on, masking the wound. The problem remains. I have some important issues I need to deal with concerning my career and my personal life. It’s as simple as that. End of.

Speaking of which, I might have mentioned I’ve been dabbling in the world of online dating again. I’ve been on 4 dates so far, none of them hideously uncomfortable or mindblowingly memorable. I dispatched the first 2 candidates efficiently and gently. S was my most recent potential suitor. After some engaging messaging, I made the mistake of accepting his WhatsApp invitation. Our date in a pub in town on a Sunday evening was dull. I sensed some possible control issues when he wanted to stretch our first encounter beyond an hour before we’d even met, ignoring my fatigue following a four hour stint of playing. Despite my request to meet near my workplace that day, he insisted on sticking to his plan. I was very tired and heard myself coming out with my same old story with lacklustre delivery. I couldn’t wait to escape and cursed my fate on my drive home. I’d been swayed by his quirkiness and the fact he sent me a couple of photos of his cat, which was identical to mine other than it was a male cat with a fatter face. I think I’d have preferred to go on a date with his cat. With hindsight, I think he was too similar to me but I like to think I’m more interesting.

When I got back from my weekend at sea, I still felt I needed to clear the air. Before I went, he pulled me up in a message saying I hadn’t been in touch after I said I’d contact him. I had no recollection of this. I apologised and told him my head was all over the place (true) with all I had to juggle. Yesterday morning I sent him a message saying it had been good to meet him but that I just didn’t fancy him. I think he took it personally and I got quite a terse message back. Yes, I put myself in his shoes. In his position I wouldn’t have taken offence. To someone, he has been attractive, he is attractive, and will be considered attractive again. Just not to me. If someone told me the same thing, I’d take that on board and it would make it easier to move on. I’m certainly not everyone’s cup of tea. Anyway, I’m happy with the clarity and politeness of what I expressed and I’m not responsible for his reaction. I now have closure. I just wish I could delete him from WhatsApp. He’s getting lower on my list of messagees and eventually he’ll disappear into infinity. Poof. Just like that.

I love Easter. It’s one of my favourite times of year with its air of promise and misty chilly mornings that bloom into beautiful sunny days as if by magic. I’m working on Saturday night. The shop work is going well. It gives me a sense of purpose and responsibility and adds real structure to my day. There’s a new manager and with him comes a sense of freshness as he pulls things into the shape he wants. I worked harder yesterday than I have since I started in January. He offered me a miniature chocolate egg, one of those really sickly ones filled with sugar, probably about 5 teaspoons in total. I’m saving it for a crisis. I worry about my hands of course, and working milk is agonising, but if I keep to 12-16 hours a week, I should be ok.

Sunday is my day off. I’m looking forward to going with the flow, although I have a vague plan. There’s plenty to keep me distracted. There are doors to be opened and interesting new places to be explored.

I’ve been to a lot of pubs recently and they don’t phase me any more, except when they’re really busy and noisy. We went out and ate some amazing food on Saturday night. The cocktails and wine were flowing freely but I wasn’t tempted. The aroma of red wine is satisfyingly nauseating. We were next to a party of 20 or so and I really struggled to engage in group conversation, my ears throbbing along to the pulsating loud music and the rowdy cacophony and expressive outbursts of celebratory revellers. My efforts to transform my shell likes into pointed feline ears were useless and I remained silent for the most part. I’m a good listener in these circumstances.

I’ve got another date lined up for Friday night, with J in a local pub. He seems nice, nice smile and nice eyes but he ends each message with a BIG triple X. Our first few exchanges were simply sealed with a single smack. Silly isn’t it? Don’t worry. It’s not a dealbreaker! He asked if I’d like to eat with him. That, however, is a no no. I only eat with people I know well and feel comfortable with. I think it partly stems from seeing Cynthia Nixon on a date in Sex and the City when she wore braces, her teeth sullied with spinach. I can laugh at myself but I like to have a say about the boundaries within which I do so.